The 80-20 Rule: How to find Satisfaction and Happiness in Relationships

The 80-20 Rule-

The Pareto Principle, commonly known as the 80-20 rule, was named after a 19th-century Italian Economist called Vilfredo Pareto.
The name comes from Pareto’s statement that,

  Roughly, 80% of the Effects come from 20% of the Causes.

There are countless examples and applications to this interesting 80-20 rule

For Example,

  • 80% of the sales come from 20% of the clients,
  • 80% of the time in a project is used up by 20% of the work,
  • 80% of crimes are committed by 20% of the criminals.

It isn’t always a magical rule of strictly 80-20, it can be 75-25 or 85-15. We’re not interested in the mere numerals, but the point is that,

The majority of the results come from the minority of the causes.

Surprisingly, when couples complain in their relationships, they cite seemingly trivial reasons. Whining that the spouse  doesn’t share the same interest in food, movies, shopping or socialization.

“We are hardwired into looking at what’s missing. When this attitude overtakes all rational reasoning, the relationship goes haywire”.

This train of thought leaves you to introspect, “Why did I get into the relationship with him/her in the first place “?
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The world as I see it- Albert Einstien

“How strange is the Lot of us mortals!

Each of us is here for a brief sojourn; for what purpose he knows not, though he sometimes thinks he senses it.
But without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people — first of all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness is wholly dependent, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose destinies we are bound by the ties of sympathy.

“A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving…”

“I have never looked upon ease and happiness as ends in themselves — this critical basis I call the ideal of a pigsty.

The ideals that have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Kindness, Beauty, and Truth.
Without the sense of kinship with men of like mind, without the occupation with the objective world, the eternally unattainable in the field of art and scientific endeavors, life would have seemed empty to me. The trite objects of human efforts — possessions, outward success, luxury — have always seemed to me …. contemptible.
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