If I had to pick one quality that most determines the person you’ll marry it is this — Self-Esteem.
Self-Esteem and Relationships:
When you have a low self-worth, you’ll sell yourself short to some half-smiling wit passing by and allow them to trample over you.
You’ll find the praises very appealing because they’re the only confirmation of your worth. Furthermore, since you draw your sense of worth from praises and approval, you’ll do whatever it takes to keep them coming.
Sure, you’ll feel good about yourself. But the constant need for approval will trigger your brain’s reward centers and you’ll unknowingly want more of it. In fact, you’ll get addicted to it.
The reason most people feel “worthless” after a breakup is because they’ve put their sense of worth in someone else.
Sometimes it takes a heartbreak to shake us awake and help us see we are worth so much more than we’re settling for.
— Mandy Hale
If you seek attention and self-worth from someone else, you become unintentionally desperate. You’ll lower the barrier to entry and give too much of a discount on yourself. And in the end, you’ll wonder how’d you ever become so “cheap” in the eyes of everyone.
It’s basic economics; Supply, and Demand.
The more scarce a resource is, the higher its value and hence higher its demand.
Speaking of economics, DO NOT miss this video on the Economics of Sex.
Your purpose in life is not to become the photons that entertain the eyes of men. You’re not a commodity that you “sell” for the best price or the highest bidder. Your reason for existence is more than just being a good “advertisement”.
When you’ve set a high price for yourself, you’ll find the right person who will level up to the challenge and win your heart.
Furthermore, he will even thank you for being so challenging because you’ve pushed him to become the best version of himself.
And remember, nothing’s sexier than having a strong self-esteem.