1. Complaining- Instead of doing something about it.
If you find yourself complaining about others, or even worse, for your own situation in life, there’s a pretty good chance you’ve been playing the blame game and have not taken full responsibility for your life, yet!
Except if it’s because of your ill-health and other misfortunes, YOU are responsible for your situation in life.
People who complain often, rarely take responsibility for their actions in life.
They get used to complaining, instead of doing something about it. They don’t take the matter by the horns and wrestle through it to completion; Instead, they’re just comfortable being cowardly, fooling themselves that somehow someone else is to be blamed for their own inability, indecisiveness, and timidity.
Remember, if you’re complaining, you’re incidentally waiting on someone else to solve your problems for you. Agreeing by default, that YOU are incapable of doing anything about it.
Complaining doesn’t help an iota in solving the problem; it only channels all your resolute energy which instead of being put to good productive use, is drained up in ranting. This, in turn, gives you a false sense of accomplishment.
Almost any situation in life boils down to a matter of choice:
Can you do something about the thing that you’re complaining about?
Then go f*cking do it.
Stop complaining and get back to work.
Therefore, stop complaining; take full responsibility for your life and start doing something about it.
2. Complacency — The graveyard of grit and growth.
Complacency is one of the major setbacks that can hold you back from further success. Complacency is the quality of being satisfied with oneself, even when things aren’t as good as they could be.
Being happy and grateful with your situation in life is a good thing but complacency is — settling for less than what you’re worth and capable of achieving.
Once you’ve reached some point of success in life, it’s usually tempting to relax, enjoy and be satisfied with what you’ve achieved, looking back at your trophies instead of pushing yourself, challenging yourself to realize your true potential.
Complacency is a mentality that doesn’t allow you to stretch beyond your comfort zone. Imagine you’re at the gym and you never lift/exercise beyond the slightest pain and/or discomfort. Will you ever grow stronger? The same applies to life.
When we deliberately make a conscious decision to push ourselves beyond our complacent comfort zones, that’s when we start growing stronger. Complacency is a nice comfortable place to be, but nothing great ever comes out of it.
3. Comparison- Stop undermining yourself.
Do you think Bill Gates compares himself with Michael Jordan? or vice-versa?
Of course not! but did you ever wonder why?
Michael Jordan knows what he is good at — his strengths and what he’s bad at — his weaknesses. He knows his game and he has defined what success means for himself and not what it means for Bill Gates or Donald Trump.
Each of them is different, gifted and talented in their own unique way.
We all have different abilities and skill-sets but if we chase someone else’s definition of “success”, we can never truly catch up to it. Not even Bill Gates can match up to Michael Jordan’s “definition of success”.
All that comparison with others is undermining your own strengths and abilities. Respect the differences, appreciate what you have and solely focus on your strengths instead of trying to copy what someone else is doing.
Comparison robs you of your confidence, damages your self-esteem and makes you feel worthless. The only person you should be comparing yourself with is the person you were yesterday. Constant improvement in the mirror of introspection is the key to success.
Life is the most difficult exam, many people fail because they try to copy others not realizing everyone has a different question paper.
Therefore, stop comparing yourself to others, define what success means for yourself instead of relying on others to define it for you.