This one thing can determine the kind of guy you will marry.

If I had to pick one quality that most determines the person you’ll marry it is this — Self-Esteem.

Self-Esteem and Relationships:

When you have a low self-worth, you’ll sell yourself short to some half-smiling wit passing by and allow them to trample over you.

A scene from “The Perks of being a wallflower”
Having a low self-esteem makes you vulnerable to crafty men who lure you with unrealistic praises. Ignorant & gullible women blush and giggle at obvious flattering flirtations and fall prey to guys who use them for their own benefits.

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The 80-20 Rule: How to find Satisfaction and Happiness in Relationships

The 80-20 Rule-

The Pareto Principle, commonly known as the 80-20 rule, was named after a 19th-century Italian Economist called Vilfredo Pareto.
The name comes from Pareto’s statement that,

  Roughly, 80% of the Effects come from 20% of the Causes.

There are countless examples and applications to this interesting 80-20 rule

For Example,

  • 80% of the sales come from 20% of the clients,
  • 80% of the time in a project is used up by 20% of the work,
  • 80% of crimes are committed by 20% of the criminals.

It isn’t always a magical rule of strictly 80-20, it can be 75-25 or 85-15. We’re not interested in the mere numerals, but the point is that,

The majority of the results come from the minority of the causes.

Surprisingly, when couples complain in their relationships, they cite seemingly trivial reasons. Whining that the spouse  doesn’t share the same interest in food, movies, shopping or socialization.

“We are hardwired into looking at what’s missing. When this attitude overtakes all rational reasoning, the relationship goes haywire”.

This train of thought leaves you to introspect, “Why did I get into the relationship with him/her in the first place “?
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